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Johnson Underwood’s Agony Aunt - Ask Cory

In our 28 years of experience within the recruitment industry, Johnson Underwood (JU) recognises that looking for a new job or facing problems at work can be extremely stressful and can lead to other challenges. Common difficulties such as anxiety, health issues or work conflicts can often get in the way of promoting yourself as a great candidate or employee.

Our new agony aunt page Ask Cory, is for anyone who wishes to seek advice and guidance relating to finding a job or work-related issues in general. We are also here to offer support on personal matters when you just need a non-judgemental person to talk to about life in general. Naturally, we cannot provide legal or medical advice and would not dream of doing so. 

JU’s Agony Aunt team is supported by recruitment experts here at JU and Cory, a qualified Life Coach, Counsellor and Wellbeing Advisor. Each question will be reviewed and answered directly by the appropriate Ask Cory team member. If we feel that a certain post would help others; we will post these onto our website with your name removed for utmost confidentiality. 

We invite you to participate; ask questions, share your experiences and what concerns you have in the work place. By sharing experiences, problems and workable solutions; our Ask Cory page could bring a smile back to your face! 

If you would like to submit a question to the Ask Cory team you can do so here

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Meet Cory
Hi,

My name is Cory and I am a qualified Life Coach, Relaxation Therapist and Counsellor specialising in Cancer. I am also a Wellbeing Advisor and have been working in HR for 7 years; counselling and coaching employees and their families. People are my main focus and as such, I support and provide advice and solutions for people in all walks of life; from those just starting out in their careers, through to Directors.

You never know what issues you may hear about when clients come in to see you. My career so far has mainly involved confidence and self-esteem issues, depression, work and marriage related problems and counselling employees who are managing health conditions.

I always feel very privileged to be a part of someone’s healing process because it is so personal to them; knowing they are confiding in me and sharing with me their deepest fears and concerns. I am also aware that in some situations, if I feel I cannot help the client or they need a different type of support from someone more qualified than myself, then I will refer them on to the appropriate parties.

I look forward to connecting with you and helping you to achieve a positive outcome.


If you would like to connect with Cory through her website, you can do so here

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Ask Cory
Dear JU,

We really enjoy reading Ask Cory here at our workplace; we are only small, 12 people, but small is best? Yes?

Here’s a quandary for you, more business than personal!

In today’s world it is really important; we have PCs, laptops, Macs, servers, networks, firewall, backups and recently added 365 and extra security with an advanced security package. It is all good until we need to change a password, add a new user, activate a new piece of equipment and then we are left in the hands of IT support. It seems a basic task takes forever and it is certainly not cheap. We have since learned to change passwords ourselves, but our IT company did not explain how easy it is!

We pride ourselves in being transparent and honest with our customers, but we cannot seem to enjoy this with our IT Support company – we have tried three already! The amount we spend on IT, we could all enjoy a weekend a way in Barcelona! The costs of running a business are just escalating and of course GDPR is on the horizon, which will take more time and money.

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Dear Cory,

I do not normally write to columns, but having read your other topics I feel I could ask you what you think about transgender. I work with a guy I have known for the last three years; he has decided he has always felt like a woman and he is going through the steps to change his gender – this means sharing the ladies changing rooms and toilets. I find it quite difficult to cope with, which I feel guilty about because I really like this person and I want to support them and learn more but I don’t know how to behave around him now. To add to my confusion, my daughter has a friend who is going through a similar situation and she feels she has lost a friend and is asking me for advice but I don’t know what to say. How do I deal with my own emotions and support my child in a non-biased way? Thank you so much.

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Dear JU,

I resigned from my last job because of my boss's unreasonable treatment of me. I know it is not good to criticise your last employer in a job interview so I don't know how to handle this. Basically I was sitting in a draft which made my neck go stiff and send pains down my arm making it impossible for me to work. A long standing problem with my neck which my boss has always known about and has never been a problem before. When I complained about the draft I was told she would think of a compromise. When I turned up for work the next day all the windows in the office were wide open and the blinds blowing in the wind. That was her compromise, and the final straw for me. Please help!

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Dear Cory,

I’m a Dad, trying to cope with the loss of my wife but I’m finding it really tough. She passed away over a year ago and I’m working again but juggling work and life with two small children and I don’t feel like I’m coping very well with it all. I have fears of what would happen to my kids if anything happens to me and work is a huge challenge – being positive, going the extra mile etc. all seemed so easy once but now it’s exhausting. Do you have any advice for me?

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Dear JU,

I work in Care and even when I have applied for permanent roles I have had to pay for a DBS, my uniform and all my training. This is taken out of my first month wages in one go and I have been left with hardly any money to live on. I read that employers can’t charge you for a DBS so I’m a bit confused, and about the whole DBS process in general, can you explain it to me please?

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 Dear Cory,
 
I think my co-worker is being bullied by my boss, what should I do to help them without letting my boss in on it?

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Dear JU,

I have recently started a new job on a trading estate. The only food available is from the sandwich and burger vans which I have been using at lunchtimes. There is a vending machine in the canteen which I get chocolate and crisps from. I'm worried as I know this isn't really healthy and I don't want to put weight on.
What should I be doing instead?

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Dear JU,

I work in a small company as the main recruiter and I want to focus on bringing our recruiting policies up to date with current legislation and best practices, especially regarding discrimination. The problem is, is my Director is really old-fashioned and has final say on anything I do so often we end up dropping great candidates because he has made an assumption about them to do with their age or perceived sexual orientation. I know this is illegal but I don’t want to lose my job or get into trouble for raising it so can you give me any advice on how to instil the correct way of thinking and change the attitudes of my boss?

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Dear JU,
 
I’ve been in a new job for a few weeks but I’m starting to realise it’s not the job I interviewed for. My manager keeps asking me to be flexible but there are definitely aspects of the role that were not on the job description and I’m not sure whether I feel comfortable saying anything but I also don’t want to end up being asked to do something I can’t do or getting something wrong. Each time I bring it up, my points are glossed over as if they are nothing to worry about but I feel uneasy about the whole situation, what do you suggest I do? 

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Dear Cory,
 
My managers keep talking about mindfulness at work but they aren’t explaining it and I don’t know what it is, how is it supposed to help you?

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Dear JU,
 
I am applying for a number of jobs, mostly over the internet; mostly through agencies, a few to organisations directly. I make sure I write an accompanying email specifically matching my experience to the post for which they are recruiting. It takes time and my hopes remain high of at least securing an interview, but sadly I am met by either no response or acknowledgement of my CV or a standard email informing me that if I am selected I shall receive an email. I also get agencies calling, being very upbeat, but I never hear from them again. Are these jobs real? Why do companies and agencies treat you this way? It’s really difficult to remain positive. I do have excellent skills and a good work history. What can I do?

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Dear JU,
 
I have been working in the same teaching job for 12 years and not really been enjoying it. I thought it was my vocation but it just keeps getting harder and harder and I’m now ready to pack it in and move on.

I’ve no idea where to start with job hunting though, what should I do first? I don’t want to work in teaching anymore (or maybe just not a school) and have lots to offer in other areas but it’s making me so miserable I’m finding it hard to motivate myself. 

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Dear JU,
 
I have been running my own business for most of my life but sadly the time has come to move on to pastures new and find myself looking to be hired. I am finding it difficult to locate someone who is willing to give me an opportunity as I am now 41 years young.

Can you offer any advice on the best way forward?

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Dear JU,
 
I currently work as temp at a large organisation. There has been little in the way of training, and permanent staff are thin on the ground. Everyday feels rather stressful, and I am currently looking for alternative work. I wonder if you can suggest any handy survival strategies to help me out until I find a better job? I don't want to just 'walk out ' but some days I really feel that's exactly what I want to do!

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Dear Cory,
 
My boss is having an affair with one of my colleagues and it’s making work miserable for the rest of us. Nothing is confidential and the person with whom they are having an affair is getting away with murder – hours, overtime and 2 hour lunches! Myself and the rest of the team have to cover and take on more work and it means any form of promotion is no longer on the agenda, as we know who our boss’s favourite is! We’re finding it really frustrating but don’t know what to do. Have you got any advice about how can I tackle this problem?

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Dear Cory,
 
I’ve had a cancer related diagnosis from my doctor and I’m at a loss of what to do next. I’m the main income earner for my family and although it was caught early and is treatable, I don’t know how long the treatment will take so I don’t know what to tell my work and I’m worried about broaching the subject with my colleagues.

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Dear Cory,

I have a thirteen-year-old daughter is unwell but the doctors cannot seem to find anything wrong with her. They have asked her in for some scans and this will be our third attempt to have the scans as my daughter won’t go. I’ve had so much time off work because of her and I don’t know what to do.

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